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Congratulations to you for completing the Advanced Realization Process Teacher Mentoring

Level I ∼ Cultivating a Healing Presence
Living and teaching authentically

Graduation Celebration December 6, 2023

“We can find that depth of safety inside the body. We can unwind the ancient narratives below the surface when they reveal themselves. We can ask those we trust to bear witness and listen deeply. We can invite and stay open to meaningful contact with one another.” – Laura

“On the physical level in your environment, how do you create safety for yourself in general? Who in your environment makes yourself feel safe? Who are the people that you can really trust when you feel vulnerable? Where in the body do you feel safe?” – Susan

“When we are able to become empty enough to receive, to listen with our whole body, then we open ourselves to the flow of life. And when we are this open and this empty, our heart is free to respond directly, intimately, and specifically to the world around us. ” – Andi

“The mystery of who we are and how we became to be who we are, still a mystery. Not one to be solved, just to be held and included
within fundamental consciousness.” – Diana

“What if I really surrender this experience and let it transform me? … That’s how the story ends. And I will conclude there as well. ” – Margaret

“Our subtle circuitry allows us to love. In our subtle circuitry, we can receive our humanness. can receive our vulnerability, and we can receive others humanness and others vulnerability.” – Ardith

“It is this clear, creative mind. receptive to the creativity of the universe that enables real time spontaneous improvisation. And when I’ve experienced it, it’s like listening to the true source of music.” – John

“Receiving this is like a whole healing experience. It’s so intimate. I’m feeling the vulnerability and I’m feeling your vulnerability and it’s just really so powerful and beautiful. Thank you.” – Marijana

“The palpable, benevolent field that we can create together is so strong that the most fearful and vulnerable and hurtful parts inside of me start to feel safe and open and open. can express themselves.” – Kirsten

“Unseen forces were there…. Together, there’s something much larger than us and we’re seeing what separates us from ourselves and divides us from others. Thank you for listening to this and being here with me. It means the world to me.” – Katherine


Phase One
Esstablishing a Foundation for Living and Teaching Authentically
May 10, 24, 31, June 7, 28, July 5 (optional)

Preparation for Session 1

  • Design a life schedule conducive to your well-being
  • Meditate 30+ minutes daily. Make a recording of yourself guiding each of these exercises, and listen to either or both exercises daily:
  • Read the preface and Chapter One (pages ix to 26) in Judith Blackstone’s book The Enlightenment Process: A Guide to Embodied Spiritual Awakening.
  • Journal regularly, responding to the prompts below. Choose what to share in the breakout rooms, study groups, or cohort session.)
    • What are your hopes, dreams, wishes, and expectations in regards to participating in this mentoring program? What are your challenges? Your fears?
    • What key terms from the reading do you want to be able to explain clearly to your students? For example, “enlightenment,” “fundamental consciousness,” “direct experience”? Write down direct quotes from Judith and then write down how you would help your students understand.
    • Write a short, sensory-rich response to each prompt, connecting others with your direct experience:
      • the awe of connecting with something greater than yourself
      • a crisis that shattered the identity you had created for yourself
      • a story about your own awakening
  • Optimize your office or studio set up so that:
    • your presence fills the screen
    • your colors, lighting, and background create an ambience of safety, warmth, friendliness, and connectedness as well as professionalism.
  • Consider these options for microphone and camera needed for your office or studio set up
Session 1

Focus: Attune to the fullness and vividness of the unified relational field

Judith writes: “I have found that many people are capable, with some practice, of the experience described here. This is the realization, or unveiling, of a subtle dimension of consciousness pervading our own being and everything around us as a unified whole. It is the experience of the luminous transparency of ourselves and our environment, and the fullness and vividness of it….This book is about the relationship between the individual self and the unity of self and other experienced in spiritual awakening…. The experience of our fundamental, unified dimension of consciousness is uncreated; it arises spontaneously as we relinquish our constraints on ourselves. Enlightenment is the laying bare of our own human nature, and yet it is extraordinary. It means to experience oneself and the world as made of the light of consciousness….To become enlightened is to move from a fragmented experience of life to a unified experience…. When we become enlightened we feel a continuity, a wholeness, of inner and outer experience, without any shifting of focus. This means that there is no longer any divisive schism between subject and object. We also experience our whole internal being at once, so there is no schism between thought, feeling, and sensation. All of these experiences are a unified whole; they occur in the single unbounded space of fundamental consciousness….The unity of enlightenment is not a merging of self and other, nor a collapsing of our internal experience in favor of the environment. It is a continuity of the internal space of our own form with the internal space of the other forms around us.” (The Enlightenment Process.)

Introduction to somatic inquiry as a way of living

  • Somatic inquiry is a process that:
    • integrates experiencing into awareness
    • cultivates your capacity to experience shifts in your energies, physical sensations, perceptions, thoughts and beliefs, and emotions

Somatic inquiry: Can you sense the space come alive with each person’s presence?

Introduce yourself with a 1-2 minute sensory-rich talk about:

  • a personal experience of “awe” or
  • a personal “crisis” or
  • a personal “awakening” or
  • “enlightenment” or
  • “fundamental consciousness” or
  • “direct experience”

Speak in a way that connects others to the immediacy of your direct experience.

Breakout rooms:

  • Share reflections on our session thus far – your experiences of the meditation and the introductions.
  • Share questions and thoughts about the reading (Preface to Chapter 1)
  • Share excerpts from your journal – including paintings, poems, collages, or drawings.

Open space for sharing:

Preparation for Session Two:

  1. Read Chapters 2-3 (pages 27 to 81).
    • Write down Judith’s explanations for key phrases – and then write down your own words to help your students understand them, for example:
      • the subtle core of the body
      • holding patterns
      • how emotional pain becomes bound in the body
      • the healing process
  2. Meditate 30+ minutes daily, choosing from the practices named below.
  3. Journal:
    • Reflect on our first session together as a cohort.What are you learning? What worked? What didn’t? Suggestions for today and future sessions? Always, I value hearimg your experiences, questions, suggestions, and different perspectives.
    • Write a short, sensory-rich response to these prompts, connecting others with your direct experience:
      • your personal path towards healing your body, heart, and mind
      • your own journey towards awakening and embodying your spiritual essence
    • Describe your ideal student. Explain why.
    • Describe skillful ways to recognize and respond to your own and your students’ basic human needs to feel safe, trusted, connected, and respected.
  4. Meet with your study group to practice some of the assigned meditations, share questions and thoughts about the assigned reading, and discuss excerpts from your journal.

Session 2

Focus: Recognize each person as ‘kin’

Judith writes: “As fundamental consciousness, we gradually dissolve our “bubble” of self-protection. We dissolve our self-consciousness, our vigilance to our own behavior and the responses of others. Our sense of self becomes an open, unbounded expanse of receptivity and responsiveness….. We have direct, in-depth contact with other life, and we feel great kinship with other life, because the core dimension of our own being is the same as the core of other life. But our contact with other life occurs across space, from our body to the body of another. If I feel someone else’s grief, I know it is someone else’s because it occurs somewhere else in the field of fundamental consciousness other than in my own body. I may respond to that person’s grief with grief in my own body, as often happens because we are empathic creatures, but I will be aware of the sequence of another’s grief and then my own.” (The Enlightenment Process)

“When we see-feel within another human being, we can sometimes see through their layers of protective and compensatory constrictions and perceive the person that they truly are within this binding. Often this evokes in us a recognition of our basic kinship with other human beings and a spontaneous upwelling of compassion for the ways in which we have all hidden and confined ourselves.” (Trauma and the Unbound Body.)

“Fundamental consciousness is the basis of our kinship and equality with all other life. As Felicia and I continued to sit with each other as this unified, pervasive space, our continued relationship of teacher and student (or doctor and patient) became secondary. We had a felt sense that we were made of the same essence, the same transparency. Although we each had our own history and perspective to communicate to each other, this could now take place in a context of ongoing contact between us. As fundamental consciousness, we knew, felt, and touched each other across the distance between us.” (Belonging Here)

Deepening your understanding of somatic inquiries as a process that:

  • brings to consciousness what you’re experiencing
  • integrates the qualities of awareness, emotion, and physical sensation
  • allows you to differentiate “content” from fundamental consciousness
  • attunes you to differentiate whether your experience of the “space” is “opening” or “closing” (note: the space doesn’t actually ‘open’ or ‘close’ – it’s opening or closing in our experience…this is important information)

Somatic inquiry: Can you sense how kinship unveils a true sense of belonging – of safety, trust, connection, and respect?

Open space for sharing:

  • What questions do you have about somatic inquiries?
  • Who is your ideal student? Why?
  • What are some skillful ways to recognize and respond to your own and others’ basic human needs to feel safe, trusted, connected, and respected?

Breakout rooms: (times below are rough estimates … it’s not important to cover everything … it is of utmost importance to MEET THE MOMENT ... personally and as a group … to be present to yourself and each other. Pay attention to your internal experiences – physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, and perceptually.

  1. (15 min) Begin by inhabiting your body, connecting to your core. Then choose one person to lead the meditation (see script below) – and then each person shares their personal experience of the meditation – What are you personally experiencing physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, and perceptually?
    Note: you’re not giving the person who guides the meditation feedback on their pacing or voice … instead you’re sharing what’s happening inside your body as they guide you … What is your inner experiencing?

    1. Releasing Bound Attitudes
  2. (10 min) Get to know each other through sharing one of these responses from your journal: (read or talk) – including paintings, poems, collages, or drawing – again, the emphasis is on your inner experiencing – physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, and perceptually – let your listeners know if you’re open to their responses (or not)
    1. your personal path towards healing your body, heart, and mind
    2. your own journey towards awakening and embodying your spiritual essence
  3. (5 min) Share your understanding and talk about how you’d help your students understand these terms:
      • room 1: the subtle core of the body
      • room 2: holding patterns
      • room 3: how emotional pain becomes bound in the body
      • room 4; the healing process

Open space for sharing:

Preparation for Session 3:

  1. Read Chapters 4-5.
    • Write down Judith’s explanations for key phrases and then find your own words (or a mind-map or sketches) to help your students understand the meaning and significance of these terms:
        • autonomy
        • the merged state
        • hypervigilence
        • learned relationship style
        • disentanglement
  2. Meditate 30+ minutes daily, choosing from the practices named below.
    Note: You can also listen to – and practice – these recordings while washing dishes, folding laundry, or taking a walk.

  3. Journal: Write a short, sensory-rich response to these prompts, connecting others with your direct experience:
    • Describe someone currently in your personal life who causes you stress.
    • Describe one or more of the defensive barriers you have created early in your life between yourself and other people.
    • Which early childhood defensive patterns are most likely to show up when you’re stressed – or distressed?
    • Are you aware of a legacy of bound pain that has been passed on from one generation to another in your family? If so, how does that affect you? (see pages 89 – 91).
    • Are you aware of a legacy of bound pain that has been passed on through society? If so, how does that affect you? (see pages 13, 29, etc.).
    • Judith writes about “the displacement of consciousness away from the vertical core and internal space of your body.” (see pages 92-99). How would you describe the movement of your consciousness, energy, and body, when you are stressed – or distressed? (see pages 83-84).
  4. Meet with your study group to practice some of the assigned meditations, discuss your questions and thoughts about the assigned reading, and share excerpts from your journal.I also encourage you to engage in somatic inquiries with your study group to explore shifts in the movement of energies, physical sensations, perceptions, thoughts and beliefs, and emotions – a somatic inquiry designed to deepen your understanding of the terms above.

Session 3

Focus: Sense contact – a ‘touching back’ – a resonance of our shared aliveness

Contact matters. From that contact, there’s an experience of resonant connection – you feel that in your own body, and you feel that in the field with others, and then you know we’re in relationship. There’s a contact, and then a resonant connection comes in. ‘Ah, they get me, they see me, they hear me, there’s space for me.’ That contact, that resonant connection – experience it in your own body and in our field.

Check-in: Express honestly what’s coming up for you

Deepening into somatic inquiry as a living inquiry:

  • Somatic inquiry is a process that:
    • helps you explore how your desires and your efforts to feel safe, to connect, and to feel loved can reveal mysterious wounds of separation
    • heightens your awareness of what you’re experiencing

Somatic Inquiry: Can you sense how childhood defenses that were meant to protect you from the world actually keep you bound up?

Judith writes: “Our fragmented, defended state was primarily created in relationships with other people, and so it is these encounters with other members of our own species that seem to be most rattling to our emerging sense of unity with the world.” (The Enlightenment Process, page 83.)

“Everywhere we are in contact with ourselves within our body, we are alive and responsive to the world around us. This produces a lived experience of continuity and connection with everything and everyone we encounter. …In reaction to traumatic events, big and small, we constrict and fragment our body and withdraw our consciousness from those parts of our body. We organize ourselves in ways that dampen the intolerable experience of that restrain those aspects of our own behavior and personality that have brought us harm…. When you experience fundamental consciousness pervading your whole body, you experience the internal coherence of your individual being. You do not need to create this unity or integration – it occurs spontaneously. It feels like the deepest contact that you can have with your own existence. When you experience this same fundamental consciousness pervading your body and environment at the same time, it is also the basis of the deepest, truest contact that you can have with other people and with all forms in nature. It makes you and your environment a spacious oneness without eradicating in any way the substantiality and separateness of your individual being. In this way, it is an experience of oneness and separateness at the same time. … The Realization Process provides a method for refining and deepening our inward contact with our body in order to contact and live within these more subtle aspects of ourselves. … The contact between the therapist and the client will be experienced throughout the internal space of both bodies, both beings. Love meets love, not in the space between two people, but within each person’s chest. Understanding meets understanding, as a felt experience, a resonance, within each person’s body.” (Trauma and the Unbound Body, appendix.)

Breakout rooms: Explore how to stay in contact with yourself as you speak and listen to each other reflect on how childhood defenses that were meant to protect you from the world actually kept you bound up.

Suggestions: Deepen and refine your inward contact with your body. Experience both the substantiality and separateness of your own being at the same time as you feel oneness with each other. Can each of you experience love meeting love within each person’s chest? Can each of you experience understanding meeting understanding, as a felt experience, a resonance, within each person’s body?

Choose one of the following topics to explore. As you talk and as you listen, see if you also experience shifts in your energy, physical sensations, thoughts and beliefs, perceptions, or emotions. Are you experiencing deep, conscious contact with yourself?

  • What conflicts from your childhood still feel unresolved?
  • What childhood needs still feel unfilled?
  • With whom are you currently entangled?

Open space for sharing:

  • How is your understanding of “somatic inquiry as a way of living” deepening?
  • What’s most alive in you at this moment?

Preparation for Session 4:

  1. Read Chapter 6 & Epilogue (pages 135 to 158). Write down Judith’s explanations for key words and then find your own words to help your students understand the meaning and significance of each of these words or phrases, for example:
    • direct transmission
    • projections onto God (or the Universe)
    • subtle signs that mark growth toward wholeness
  2. Meditate 30+ minutes daily.
  3. Journal: Choose a topic for a talk due Session 5. You can pre-record this talk on audio or video or speak “live.”
    • Prompt: Prepare a 4-6 minute “teaching story grounded in your own inner exploration of what is “true” for you on your journey towards wholeness
    • Guidance: Speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners. Can you sense the oneness that defines spiritual maturity?
    • In preparation: Reflect back on your life and on the reading, Look back over all your journal entries. Recall your somatic inquiries – and your experiences in your study group and in our cohort. Meditate – and let the ‘space’ reveal your deepest experience of reality – and what you want to say.
  4. Meet with your study group to talk about your current teachings of RP or your future plans for teaching RP or your challenges related to teaching RP. Practice some of the assigned meditations, share questions and thoughts about the assigned reading, discuss your understanding of key concepts, and share other reflections from your journal. Share with them the guidance that’s emerging spontaneously from the stillness and spaciousness of fundamental consciousness.

Session 4

Focus: Hone your body as a trustworthy instrument of perception.

Deepening your understanding of somatic inquiry as a way of living

  • Somatic inquiry is a process that:
    • cultivates your capacity to sense guidance spontaneously emerging
    • dissolves (over time) defenses and other holding patterns
      dissolves (over time) your sense of being a subject separate from an objective external world
    • unveils the direct experience that your own being is continuous with the pervasive, unified qualities of awareness, love, and physical sensation
    • dissolves (over time) your subjective manipulation of your perception
    • dissolves (over time) a perceived boundary between yourself as the perceiver and that which you perceive
    • opens you into the clear immediacy of the perceptible world, “direct” or “bare” perception.
      • An early Buddhist text describes bare perception by saying, “In the seen there will be just the seen; in the heard, just the heard; in smelling, tasting, touching, just smelling, tasting, touching; in the cognized, just the cognized.”

Somatic Inquiry: Can you uncover an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy-mind system?

Judith writes: “To become enlightened is to move from a fragmented experience of life to a unified experience. An ancient Buddhist text says, ‘The mind of the buddhas is all-pervasive. The mind of sentient beings is in fragments To develop a scope like the sky has great benefit’ (quoted in Randrol, 1993, p. 101) ….Above all else, the spiritual path is a process of becoming real. We grow toward internal contact with ourselves at the same time as we transcend our separateness and realize the oneness with everything around us. This includes the unfolding of our essential human qualities – awareness, love, and sensation. It requires the integration of love and detachment, distance and intimacy. We cannot become real by pretending to be other than who we are right now. Even after we have begun our realization of fundamental consciousness, we are still incomplete, fragmented people, at the same time as we are attuned to the dimension of wholeness and unity. This means that we retain our human right to sing the blues, even though we are increasingly capable of joy and peace. … If we attempt to eradicate our internal experience of ourselves, we thwart our spiritual progress and deprive ourselves of the great pleasure of becoming whole…. There is a more subtle level of boundaries that can be described as the placement of our consciousness in relation to our body and the bodies of other people. Most people create artificial boundaries to separate themselves from other people, or they attempt to live without boundaries, losing contact with their own body and self in order to connect with others. In fact, most of us manage to do both. In the process of enlightenment, we realize that the fundamental dimension of our own being is continuous with the fundamental being of other people. There is no true barrier between us. At the same time, we begin to live in the core of our body and to relate to the world from this innermost core. The shift inward to our core is a deepened perspective on the world; it feels as if we are relating to people from further away. There is a sense that we are finding our true distance from other people as we discover our oneness with them. …. The realization of fundamental consciousness transforms the body …., affects our breath, the use of our senses, our physical comfort and health, and our relationship to gravity…. and deepens our capacity for relationship with other life…. There are unconscious bindings in our body, energy, and mind that limit our reception of the present moment… When we are enlightened, our consciousness pervades our own body and everything around us. This is a more subtle dimension of consciousness… Enlightenment is a clear, alert, but very subtle perception of the present moment based on a lasting refinement of consciousness. … It is a lasting transformation of our being, involving our ongoing experience of life.” (The Enlightenment Process.)

Practicum: Watch three short video clips of actors feeling vulnerable. If they came to you because they wanted to feel more confident, how would you begin the first session? Take notes as you watch each video clip:

  • What do you sense as you meet each client for the first time?
  • What is the first thing you would say to each person to set the tone for your session?

Breakout rooms: Share your observations and your opening comment.

Open space for sharing

  • What’s most alive in you at this moment?
  • Sense the movement of energies, physical sensations, thoughts and beliefs, perceptions, and emotions – and allow guidance to spontaneously emerge.

Preparation for Session Five:

  • Meditate 30+ minutes daily. Focus on the recorded RP meditations from weeks 1-4 or from the library that will be most useful to you for your teaching talk week 5, and also these two:
  • Practice your 4-6 minute live or videotaped talk that integrates your own inner experiences into a “teaching” to be shared with the whole class. Speak heart-to-heart.
  • Meet with your study group to practice your teaching talk. Meditate together, engage in somatic inquiries, talk about your insights, challenges, and questions, as time and necessity allow.

Week Five

Focus: Attune to truth in the center of your being

Somatic inquiry: Can you sense how your own truth benefits the truth of the life around you?

Prompt: Share a 4-6 minute “teaching story” grounded in your own inner experiences with the whole class.

Note: Can you speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners?

Speaking inspirationally from your own experiences, warmly, and authentically allows you to relate to others with less projection, and with the love, empathy and compassion that arises spontaneously when realizing nonduality.

Judith writes: “We can maintain attunement to fundamental consciousness while speaking by consciously inhabiting our neck, vocal mechanism, and the subtle core of the neck. The voice becomes more authentically expressive when we inhabit our vocal anatomy, making it easier to convey our true thoughts and feelings. We also feel safer when we inhabit our body because we have a felt-sense of our own existence. It is less likely that we will feel the need to defend our voice if we experience the quality of our being while we are speaking, or about to speak…. It is helpful in both cases to consciously inhabit the upper chest, as well as the neck. If we experience that we are ‘sitting in our heart’ while we speak, it will keep us from leaping up into our head or pressing down against our chest and obstructing our breath…. For each of us, the subtle channel in the vertical core of our body is our entranceway into fundamental consciousness. That is, when we access this core, we discover the subtle emptiness or transparency of our body. We know when we enter the vertical core of the body, for it has a specific quality. It has a fine electrical charge, and within that, stillness and a quality that we can recognize as truth, or essence…. We also possess the innate ability to recognize reality. Our lives are guided by our ability to tell truth from deception, balance from disharmony. As we realize fundamental consciousness, we recognize that our underlying reality has been the goal of our lifelong navigation toward balance and harmony. … Christian interpreter Maurice Nicoli (1967) writes, ‘When Good comes first, a man acts from mercy and grace. Then he is made whole. When he is Whole, he no longer misses the mark’ (p. 59). In this quote we have the idea that the individual becomes whole by being good. And the more subtle idea, very similar to the Buddhist idea of dharma, that he is now right on target, that he does not ‘miss the mark.’ That mark is the action that benefits everyone involved. …To the extent that we can act without artifice, without manipulation of ourselves and others, our actions are the actions of cosmic consciousness, the perfect tao. This means that our own truth benefits the truth of the life around us.(The Enlightenment Process.)

“When we drop to the bottom of our heart, we actually drop down to the bottom of our chest and the bottom of our throat. This allows us to feel the connection, the internal continuity, between our heart and our throat and to speak our emotional truth…. An ancient Hindu prayer asks us to be led from ignorance to truth. Our spiritual reality is the same as the essential truth of our personhood. As we dissolve our protective shell and realize our oneness with other life, we realize ourselves. Within our own body, we find the unified, responsive, spontaneous being that we have always known somewhere in the background of all our experience. This landing in truth, when we have been living in limitation and disguise, is one of the most fulflling experiences available to human beings..” (Trauma and the Unbound Body)

Sense the nuances of a somatic inquiry: Can you sense guidance about how to ‘land’ in truth – about how to ‘live’ in truth – spontaneously emerging?

Open space for sharing

July 1 2023 recordings

OPTIONAL BONUS SESSION
Saturday July 1, 10:30 – 12 pm Pacific

Same Zoom Link

Purpose: reflection on weeks 1-5 and preview summer and fall work

Note: the following questions are to inspire your thought … hold them lightly, please …

Everyone is welcome! If you can’t attend, please email me or someone else your reflections, concerns, and suggestions.

1) What has been most valuable to you thus far? What has been least useful?
recorded RP meditations for practicing? study group sessions? use of our time together in our cohort sessions? private portal to our library? reading? giving talks weeks 1 and 5? activities during class weeks 2-3-4? open space for sharing and questioning? personal attention and feedback during and out of class? posting of the recordings? the recordings broken down into smaller portions? private sessions?

2) What skills are you learning? What capacities are you cultivating? What sensitivities are you developing? What do you want to make sure we address before Dec 13?

3) As you preview the guidance for summer and the overview of the fall work, what questions, concerns, and suggestions do you have? (I’m concerned that it might be overwhelming rather than clarifying … are you? or do you feel that this is useful and doable?

4) What suggestions and feedback do you have for me?

Note; you’re welcome to get your money back if this isn’t a good fit for you.

I am deeply committed to each person – and I want to make sure that our time together meets your interests and needs. Thank you!

 

Summer Interim: Becoming more intimately attuned to yourself

Practice Realization Process meditations daily

  • RP practices for realizing a depth of presence that inspires your life and your work.
    • Subtle breathing practices
    • Fundamental consciousness practices
    • Whole and human practices
    • Standing and moving practices
    • As you practice each of the meditations above, notice the purpose of each one. That process deepened my understanding immensely!
    • Check in with others in your study group to see which meditations are most useful to them, and why.
    • Be sure to take turns leading each other in these meditations. As you guide, first make deep contact with your central channel, breathe in your three core points. Deepen your contact with yourself through deepening your contact with the qualities of fundamental consciousness – awareness, emotion, and physical sensation. When you guide at this depth, there’s a powerful transmission that offers deep healing. Note: your capacity to ‘receive’ love opens up others’ capacities to receive love. Paradoxical? Check it out!
    • Note; you are not ‘sending energy.’ Your ability to receive the qualities of fundamental consciousness (awareness, emotion, and physical sensation) through any of the points in the central channel differentiates you from “reading scripts.” Now you are “teaching nonverbally.” That’s one big step into being a ‘nondual spiritual teacher.’
    • Note: you are not ‘doing the meditations’ that you’re teaching. Instead, you are in and of the field of fundamental consciousness. That makes all the difference.
  • Cultivate authentic, mutually-nourishing relationships with others:
    • Relational field practices
      • This is truly significant. Nonduality is the wholly mysterious experience that we are made of consciousness, and simultaneously we are human. It’s because we are human that we can relate. When we can relate core-to-core, our relationships are authentic and mutually-nourishing.
      • Practice these relational practices frequently in your study groups to deepen your own embodiment, heal self-fragmentations that get activated in relationship with others, accelerate your spiritual realization, resolve conflicts, and cultivate your skill in repairing relationships with others in your group, with your clients and students, and with groups you teach.
      • Though the purpose of each practice is somewhat different, the overarching intention is that we are able to rest in our hearts, open and undefended. That’s what ‘living in duality’ or ‘living nonduality’ or ’embodiment stillness’ or embodying fundamental consciousness means. It’s to be conscious and in contact with our whole body, experiencing the resonance within our whole body, and simultaneously experiencing the resonance between and among us – without losing contact with our very human thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.
  • Cultivate your “see-feel” skills.
    • Hone your body as a trustworthy instrument of subtle perception.
      • Subtle perception practices
      • Practicing these subtle perception practices on your own and with others.
      • These and other RP meditations are fundamental to uncovering an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy mind system, such that you know without thinking, you hear without listening, and you see by sensing. Your access to fundamental consciousness matters.
      • It’s critically important to refine and eventually reach the deep integration of your senses so that you can perceive each moment with all of your senses at once. And this just takes time and practice. And then the ‘shift’ happens … almost imperceptibly… If you’re concerned that it hasn’t happened ‘yet’, then consider whether you really want to be able to “see-feel’. What might you ‘see-feel’ that you’re unconsciously defending against?
      • Note: The more fully you embodiment fundamental consciousness, the more fully you’ll be able to rest in fundamental consciousness, grounded and centered in your own body, awake and responsive to others and to your environment, allowing the healing process to emerge spontaneously out of the qualities of awareness, emotion, and physical sensation field. (This takes practice … it’s an aspiration … )
  • Identify your own topics for specific courses you’d like to teach or specific individuals you’d like to reach – what Realization Process practices would be skillful in addressing the needs of your students. Again, the questions below are designed to be useful to you. Only address what seems realistic and relevant at this point.
    • Which meditations do you think are easiest to teach? Why?
    • Which meditations do you think are for the most advanced students? Why?
    • How would you integrate RP practices (and which ones) into teaching beginning, intermediate, or advanced yoga sessions? into bodywork sessions for relaxation, releasing stress or anxiety or depression, or healing deep trauma?
    • How would you teach beginners new to meditation?
    • How would you teach experienced meditators who are new to embodiment?
    • How would you address issues such as students who get restless or confused or sleepy? students who “seek to understand” with a logical, rational mind? students who are anxious? depressed? argumentative? distracting or distressing to other students? students with serious mental health issues, mood disorders, addiction issues, deep complex trauma, etc.
    • Which are your favorite meditations to teach? to do on your own?
    • I encourage you to listen to recordings while walking, doing the dishes, folding laundry, making the bed, etc. Also I encourage you to let yourself sink deeply into meditation without ‘doing’ anything. And also you may find these recorded meditations very useful for helping you get to sleep or get back to sleep if you wake up in the middle of the night. I do! :)

Engage in courageous acts to launch your work in this world:

Note: I’m brainstorming below … pick a focus that’s resonant with everything else that’s going on in your life. After all, it’s summer!

  • Create / update a website resonant with who you are and what you offer. I recommend Talia DeFalco, as she’s an experienced Realization Process student so she’s familiar with what we’re teaching. Also she has an amazing sense of design and great tech skills. Check out these websites that she has created:
  • Design new offerings on topics as diverse as
    • self-love
    • resilience
    • compassion
    • other? (I am usually drawn to teaching that which I most want to learn. And also, it feels to me that I’m usually the last person on the planet to understand things …)
  • Create (more) audios or videos so that you can draw on them to share with your students and your clients. Decades ago I worked with Emmet Miller, MD, a mindbody physician. He recorded all of our sessions, and I listened them over and over. I found that so useful. Also he had / still has recordings that address particular issues that his clients face. I bought dozens of his recordings at that time in my life.
  • Take this opportunity to network with others who might be able to support your work – e.g., other types of healers such as yoga teachers or energy workers or body workers or therapists who might help you find your place in the community, partner with you, or send you clients. Think about how you might offer a ‘free’ session to the individual or to the person’s clients or students – as a way of establishing yourself. Place flyers at local health and holistic stores. Go to your local spiritual bookstore and offer a free workshop there – or an afternoon of $10 introductory sessions there. Start networking!
  • Other?
  • Choose a couple ‘burning topics’ that you’re excited and passionate about, issues that seem urgent and critical to you. The key topics that arose in cohort 2 coalesced around issues of ‘connection,’ ‘belonging,’ and ‘gender/sexuality.’ Also they were interested in ‘healing’ and in ‘disentangling/releasing.’ For the most part, those issues arose during their summer study group sessions.
  • Practice ‘directed reading,’ rather than seeking to understand the entirety of Judith’s books. to be specific, look for ‘burning topics,’ as you read these books: Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness and Belonging Here: A Guide for the Spiritually Sensitive Person.
  • Either highlight a hard copy book or use ‘search’ for key words on a Kindle version. Then write down key quotes from Judith that seem most important, as they are vital resources to help you explore some of your ‘burning questions.’
  • Choose quotes that illuminate the inquiry that you’re on.
  • Design and facilitate both personal and study group somatic inquiries to get an experiential understanding.
    • That means that you’re asking people to pay attention to
      • shifts in the movement of energies
      • textures of shifting physical sensations, including tensions, physical contractions
      • emotions that arise when you bring to conscious awareness (childhood) memories (see Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions.) or Karla McLaren’s Youtube books or videos – e.g., why shame is your friend (shame versus guilt).
      • cognitive processes (thoughts and beliefs that arise from the fragmented or bound parts of yourself
      • perceptions of space (if the person is feeling lonely, is their perception of the space that it’s tight, closed, bound – such that they’re feeling all lone? cut off from contact?) Perception of the space is of critical importance. I don’t think we’ve explored it nearly enough!!! :)
  • Here are the burning topics that arose in cohort 2 (each one had personal importance to the people who chose to gather together in an “affinity” group to explore it further):
    • Realizing that you could not express your gender and/or sexuality without facing social persecution
    • Feeling estranged from others or sensing that you truly didn’t belong
    • Losing contact with your own feelings and needs
  • Here are excerpted examples of key quotes from Judith’s books (selected because they gave insight and clarity – and seemed relevant):
    • CONNECTION: “Sensitive people are often so aware of other people’s mental and emotional life that they lose connection with their own inner responses and needs…. The lack of genuine connection with significant others in their childhood may derail the development of their own connection with themselves, and their ability to feel close with other people…. The gifts of sensitivity, emotional depth, and insight … can be entranceways into both the everyday world of shared human connection and the most subtle, spiritual dimension of our being.”
    • BELONGING: “Our sense of belonging in the world is integrated with, and surpassed by, a sense of belonging to something beyond, and in some sense more real and enduring, than the confusion of the world around us…. The more advanced the teaching, and the students, become, the more the ultimate is presented as something belonging to us, as a wonderful but entirely natural part of our own nature…. This ongoing experience of contact gives us a deep sense of kinship with everyone we encounter and a sense of belonging in our world. It can help us surmount our fears of other people, as well as erode our prejudices and our aversions.”
    • GENDER / SEXUALITY: “The qualities of physical sensation, emotion, and awareness become, in our human anatomy, the qualities of gender, sexuality, power, love, voice, and understanding. These are the qualities that are enfolded in our being, which deepen and develop as we realize fundamental consciousness. They are also the qualities of our self-expression and our mutual contact with other human beings… Attuning to the quality of gender does not mean that we have to feel “feminine or “masculine.” It means that we can inhabit our pelvis and genital areas and feel the qualitative dimension of these parts of our body… Gender is an important political issue, an issue of freedom to be ourselves without social persecution. ”
    • HEALING “These [Realization Process] practices approach the healing of trauma in two ways. There are practices that directly facilitate body-mind integration through inhabiting the internal space of one’s body, attuning to the unified ground of fundamental consciousness and the inherent qualities of one’s being that emerge as we know ourselves as this ground. And there are practices that utilize our attunement to fundamental consciousness in order to precisely and lastingly release the trauma-based constrictions in the body.”
    • DISENTANGLE / RELEASE: “Contact with the subtle core of the body … helps us disentangle from fixed beliefs, traumatic memories, and it refines our focus so we can more effectively and precisely release the trauma-based holding patterns from our bodies. All of our holding patterns contain the movement into the constriction and therefore the exact pathway of their release…. As you begin to release these organizations in your body, you may discover that the areas in your body of bound fascia contains your child mind (your childhood mentality at the time of trauma), the memory of what happened to you, and the emotions you felt during the trauma. “
  • You might instead want to focus on topics that you want to teach – that seem urgent and important:
    • Wholeness
    • Depth
    • Fluidity
    • Subtlety
    • Luminosity
    • Contact
    • Etc.

5. Please journal – or draw – or dance – or sing – or find some other creative outlet for expressing what comes up for you during your personal somatic inquiries. Contact your study group for support. They are there for you. As am I. Contact me if it’s critically urgent.

6. Prepare to share your experiences Weeks 6 and 7.

Sessions 6-11: Realizing a Depth of Presence Inspiring Your Life and Your Work
Sep 6, 13, 20, 27, Oct 4, 11

Session 6: Wednesday September 6:

1) Meditate

  • to know the natural oneness of your body
  • to be in genuine contact with yourself and others, rather than projecting childhood family dynamics onto present-day relationships
  • to cultivate trust in the healing process spontaneously emerging
  • to realize a depth of presence that inspires your life and your work

2) Practice “see-feel” – Two truths and a lie

  • What were some of your joys and sorrows this summer?
  • What helps you feel safe? connected? trusted? and respected?

3) Introduce your burning topic with a very brief (1-2 minute) sensory-rich talk that connects others to the urgency or crucial nature of your topic – or to your passion or your excitement about this question.

(Note: This is a “jigsaw” assignment, which means that by the time all the groups guide us through their “live healing sessions,” each of us, whether facilitators or participants, will have learned something significant about each topic.

4) Form “affinity groups” with others whose questions or topics are related.

5) Meet in breakout rooms with your affinity group

  • Share more about the significance of your “burning question” or “burning topic” – e.g., talk about your personal somatic inquiry and your insights arising from your inner experiencing. As time permits, share relevant quotes.
  • As a group, decide on one “burning question” or “burning topic” as the key idea for the live healing session that you will focus on with the whole class.
  • Decide on a date for your ‘live’ healing session: Sep 20, Sep 27, or Oct 4.
  • Plan times and to meet outside of our sessions.
  • Decide on clear actions that each person will do in order to be prepared for your next meeting.

Note: you’re giving us a ‘sample’ …. a ‘deep dive’ … that arises out of your research into your topic.

By the end of class Wed Sep 6:

  • you will have chosen your topic and be in an “affinity” group
  • you will have signed up for one of these dates for your “live” session: Sep 20, Sep 27, or Oct 4
  • you will have engaged in meditations to integrate body and mind and to attune to each other
  • you will have engaged in a somatic inquiries into ways you shift your attention to feel safer
  • you will have practiced cultivating your “see-feel” skills
  • Familiarize yourself with the scope of this assignment – see session 7 and also suggestions sessions 8-9-10.

Outside of class meet with your affinity group:

Again – make sure everyone understands the scope of this assignment – see session 7 and also suggestions in sessions 8-9-10. You’re sharing a ‘sample’ – a ‘deep dive’ that gives us a taste of the “healing journey” that your affinity group has engaged in during and outside of class.

  • Make sure that everyone agrees and is clear about the key idea for your live healing session.
  • Engage in somatic inquiries to get a fuller understanding of how the same issue (for example, feelings of ‘shame’ may have different energetic patterns, different physical sensations, different bound emotions, different memories and thoughts and beliefs, and different perceptions of the space. It’s really important that the actual ‘fragmented’ or ‘lost’ or ‘shattered’ parts of yourself be allowed the space to be uniquely received. We are such complex human beings. Do allow sufficient time for exploration, honoring, listening, receiving, and healing, including embodiment of those places in the body that are most entangled.
  • Choose one or two relevant quotes from Judith that offer insight and understanding to incorporate into your life healing session.
  • Make a plan for how your group will do more research, share your notes, and keep track of insights as they arise, so that, as a group, you gain a more nuanced understanding of your key idea.
  • Bring your unresolved questions and your insights to share with the class Session 7.

Session 7:

Focus: Design a healing session

  1. Meditate
  2. Check-in and updates
  3. Affinity group work time 45 minutes
  4. Open space: Share unresolved questions and insights from your affinity group meetings.
Here’s an example of how you might design a 10-15 minute session with the whole cohort (followed by 10-15 minutes for Q/A.)
      • Introduction to set the tone and engage your audience
        • Share a compelling, relatable story?
        • Open with a tone-setting meditation?
        • Introduce your key idea and explain how and why you chose this idea – and why it’s important
      • Somatic inquiry with the whole cohort or with one volunteer (so you can explore deeper what’s going on with that person. You might want to arrange for the volunteer ahead of time – or not. (Somatic inquiry – explore a key question – and guide the participant to experience the movement of energies, the physical sensations, the feelings/emotions that arise, the thoughts/beliefs that arise, and their perception of  space/spaciousness or not)
      • Follow – up – either with your one client or by inviting people (3?)in the cohort to share their experiences – and respond individually to them.) “Meet the moment.”
      • Closing (a summation, including a compelling quote from Judith)
      • Transition to Q/A

Note: Look at the simplicity and immediacy of the sample somatic inquiries as inspiration.

  • Specific suggestions for everyone in your affinity group:
    • Open into the spaciousness and stillness of your true nature.
    • Realize that fundamental consciousness encompasses each of you individually and also everyone in your group at the same time.
    • Note: The openness and authentic presence of both the therapist and the client seems to produce a spontaneous, and often mutual, healing process.
  • Specific suggestions for the therapist summarized from Judith’s short articles that you read during the intersession:
    • As therapist, trust this process to emerge. You do not have to fill the silence with ideas or healing strategies. You can open to the silence and allow the true creativity of the situation to flow.
    • As Freud observed many years ago, the painful memories of the client seem to follow their own order; they emerge in exactly the right sequence for the client to be able to understand and resolve them.
    • The client may also become aware of the constrictions and fragmentations in their body as they relate the narrative of their psychological history, and these rigidities may become more visible for the therapist as the client is ready to release them.
    • The practice of sitting in the open space of fundamental consciousness while another person expresses their deepest wounding can also help you open your heart and your understanding, and become stable in your realization of fundamental consciousness.
    • As fundamental consciousness, you are naturally equal with your client. Situated in the core of your body means that you are living within the center of your being. And the center of your own being is also the center—it touches and connects with the center—of all other beings. You cannot inhabit your body fully and know yourself as fundamental consciousness, if you are holding yourself either above or below other people.
    • The contact between the therapist and the client will be experienced throughout the internal space of both bodies, both beings. Love meets love, not in the space between two people, but within each person’s chest. Understanding meets understanding, as a felt experience, a resonance, within each person’s body.
    • The Healing Ground therapist who is attuned to the pervasive space of fundamental consciousness can, to some extent, “see-feel” the shifts in the client’s experience as they speak. This can help you discern what is most potent for the client in their narrative, even if their words do not provide this emphasis.
    • For example, a client may say that they feel very little about the loss of a parent, but the therapist will be able to observe the movement of grief or anger in the client’s body even as they say this. They can also see-feel where the client is most open to experience and where they have defended themselves. Sometimes, they can even see the ages and the emotions that are held within the client’s body.
    • The pervasive space of FC enables you to see-feel the client’s experience over there, within their body, without running it through your own body.
    • As fundamental consciousness, however, the HG therapist is attuned to themselves and the client in a way that is deeper, or more subtle, than mirroring or entrainment. Instead of feeling the client’s pain in our own body, you can see and feel it within the client’s body. Although you may respond with the same emotion in your own body, you can discern that it is your own response to the other person, rather than that person’s emotion. And you may respond with some other emotion. As the pervasive space of FC, you can know what you are experiencing in your own body and what the other person is experiencing in their body at the same time. Empathy occurs across distance, rather than by feeling the client’s suffering as if it were your own.
    • When, as Healing Ground therapists, you can experience fundamental consciousness pervading yourself and your clients, the therapeutic relationship is transformed in several ways:
      • Your own presence is more centered, grounded, and empathic.
      • You can track your internal responses to your clients more clearly.
      • Your perception of your clients is more refined.
      • You are more open to the spontaneous emergence of the healing process.
    • Although it is also crucial to be seen and heard by another person, psychological healing is something that the client really can only do for themselves. It is an inward process of:
      • remembrance,
      • self-examination,
      • self-insight, and
      • contact with the internal space of their own body.
    • The therapist’s stable, open presence gives the client permission and safety for this internal process. The therapist holds the thread that allows the client to make this solitary journey without fear of becoming lost in the labyrinth of their past.
    • The ability of the Healing Ground therapist to inhabit their own body and to know themselves as fundamental consciousness is therefore of key importance for the healing potential of the therapeutic relationship.
    • As a therapist, your presence, your embodying the clear space of fundamental consciousness, allows more space for the client’s emotions to emerge, unfold, and flow.

Session 8:

Meditations for being embodied, grounded, and centered, attuned to the dimension of wholeness and unity, realizing oneness with everything and everyone around you.

Meditations for breathing and settling in your body so that you can activate an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy-mind system.

Meditations for remembering the crucial importance and urgency you feel about this topic – and also why you are so excited and passionate about it.

Meditation:

Focus; Healing Trauma: Kirsten, Louise, Susan

Your affinity group will facilitate a live healing session once, for approximately 20-25 minutes, followed by Q/A 10-15 minutes. If you want, you can invite the cohort into breakout rooms so that you can follow up with smaller groups – and then come back together for your conclusion.

Note: you’re giving us a ‘sample’ …. a ‘deep dive’ …

Guidance for being embodied, grounded, and centered:

  • Attune to the dimension of wholeness and unity.
  • Realize oneness with everything around you.
  • Breathe and settle in your body so that you can activate an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy-mind system.
  • Remember the crucial importance and urgency you feel about this topic – and also why you are so excited and passionate about it.

After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 10-15 minutes – with a smooth, skillful transition – and a smooth, skillful ending.

“Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Session 9: Live healing sessions

  1. Andi, Margaret, Marijana
  2. Ardith & Katherine

Your affinity group will facilitate a live healing session once, for approximately 25-30 minutes, followed by Q/A 10-150 minutes.

Note: you’re giving us a ‘sample’ …. a ‘deep dive’ …

Guidance for being embodied, grounded, and centered:

  • Attune to the dimension of wholeness and unity.
  • Realize oneness with everything around you.
  • Breathe and settle in your body so that you can activate an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy-mind system.
  • Remember the crucial importance and urgency you feel about this topic – and also why you are so excited and passionate about it.

After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 5-10 minutes – with a smooth, skillful transition – and a smooth, skillful ending.

“Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Session 10: Focus: “Live’ healing sessions 20-30 minutes followed by 10-15 minutes dialogue

“Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Meditation
Laura: Creativity + dialogue
Diana & John: attunement and autonomy +  dialogue
Reflections
“No dumb questions”

After Oct 4th, meet weekly again with your study group,

  • Explore address social justice issues
  • Discuss how to respond skillfully to challenging clients
  • Share ideas about how to address disruptive group dynamics
  • Reflect – as a study group – on ‘burning questions’ or ‘burning topics’ that feel urgent and crucial but haven’t been explored during our time together.
  • Share your self-assessments regarding your experiences in nondual therapeutic healing sessions

Reminder; Bonus sessions Oct 11th

Lesson plan for Oct 4th:
Your affinity group will facilitate a live healing session once, for approximately 20-25 minutes, followed by Q/A for 10-15 minutes.
Note: you’re giving us a ‘sample’ …. a ‘deep dive’ …
Guidance for being embodied, grounded, and centered:

  • Attune to the dimension of wholeness and unity.
  • Realize oneness with everything around you.
  • Breathe and settle in your body so that you can activate an internal intelligence at the basis of the body-energy-mind system.
  • Remember the crucial importance and urgency you feel about this topic – and also why you are so excited and passionate about it.

After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 5-10 minutes – with a smooth, skillful transition – and a smooth, skillful ending.

“Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Meet to reflect on Weeks 6-10 and to preview Weeks 12-14.

Prepare to individually “teach” the whole class about a burning topic of your personal choice. Your “teaching talk” should be approximately 10-15 minutes long.

  • Choose a topic that you’re passionate or excited about – one that feels urgent or critical for us to hear about.
  • Speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners – so that each of us can attune to you through the subtle resonance of communication., and also so that each of us learns something significant about your experiences and your perspective.
  • After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 5-10 minutes.

Note: Speaking inspirationally from your own experiences, warmly, and authentically allows you to relate to others with less projection, and with the love, empathy and compassion that arises spontaneously when realizing nonduality.

Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Prepare to individually “teach” the whole class about a burning topic of your personal choice. Your “teaching talk” should be approximately 10-15 minutes long.

  • Choose a topic that you’re passionate or excited about – one that feels urgent or critical for us to hear about.
  • Speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners – so that each of us can attune to you through the subtle resonance of communication., and also so that each of us learns something significant about your experiences and your perspective.
  • After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 5-10 minutes.

Note: Speaking inspirationally from your own experiences, warmly, and authentically allows you to relate to others with less projection, and with the love, empathy and compassion that arises spontaneously when realizing nonduality.

Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding …

Prepare to individually “teach” the whole class about a burning topic of your personal choice. Your “teaching talk” should be approximately 10-15 minutes long.

  • Choose a topic that you’re passionate or excited about – one that feels urgent or critical for us to hear about.
  • Speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners – so that each of us can attune to you through the subtle resonance of communication., and also so that each of us learns something significant about your experiences and your perspective.
  • After you finish speaking, please invite the whole class to engage in a dialogue for an additional 5-10 minutes.

Note: Speaking inspirationally from your own experiences, warmly, and authentically allows you to relate to others with less projection, and with the love, empathy and compassion that arises spontaneously when realizing nonduality.

Meet the moment,” answer questions – appreciating, normalizing, directing others inward to their own wisdom, offering a direction or suggestion, clarifying, advising, guiding

Before our last session, meet as a study group. I invite each of you to figure out how to have closure. Closure in groups and in relationships matters. Let me know if you have questions.

Please check with each other to make sure everyone can open this google doc – by pasting it in a separate browser. Then fill in the boxes. It’ll self-safe (hopefully.) Let me know if you have any questions. I appreciate it!!!

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Preparation for our last class and our graduation celebration!

1) Please paste this google doc into your browser. Fill it out. It’ll self-save (I hope).

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1NW02meM95p3tRj30SA4DhY6zH-n_8bLVknFW3cDe5Zk/edit#heading=h.fvnabtsb0gwi

2) Please send me – by December 4th – ONE sentence for each person in our cohort (including me) describing a) how this person inspires you OR b) an important insight that you gained from this person OR c) what you might wish for this person or d) a favorite memory of this person during our time together.

3) Please prepare a short (2-3 minutes) graduation speech. (Please be mindful of the time…)

  • Wisdom from your heart
  • Insights deeply rooted in your own experience
  • How you will take this work into the world
  • How our time together has impacted you, and what still lingers
  • Favorite memories of our time together

Speak in a way that allows your insights to penetrate into the hearts of your listeners – so that each of us can attune to you through the resonant connection, and also so that each of us learns something significant about your experiences and your perspective.

4) Time permitting – I’d love to hear more about anything else that you want to share as to how you’ve grown and changed through our time together in this mentoring program – and what suggestions you have for me and for future participants in Mentoring Level I.

Sessions 12-16 Demonstrating an Unshakeable Confidence in Living and Teaching Authentically
Nov 8, 15, 22, Dec 6, 13

Passcode:embodiment

There’s more availability in March and April~

An invitation for you tor reflect on the arc of our journey towards living as a healing presence in this world …

Awakening into the Wild Heart of Reality
July 22-26, 2024
Los Altos Hills,  CA

Day 1, May 31, 2023: Lightly-edited introductions

What has mattered most to you on our journey together?

See-Feel: three protective strategies

Two Views of Nonduality

It is all one!” has been the exclamation of mystics throughout the ages. It is a pinnacle, an ultimate revelation of spiritual aspiration. Yet spiritual oneness has been understood, expressed, and taught quite differently within different traditions. It has been understood as oneness with God, as an ecstatic merging with the vibrations of the universe, as a loss of self in the other, and as a gaining of Self that encompasses all otherness. It has been taught as a stopping of one’s thought and emotions, even as the disappearance of all perception of form, and it has been taught as the most fluid freedom of thought and feeling, as the sharpest perception of objects and events. All of these perspectives and more have been offered by different teachers, spiritual texts, and traditions as nonduality.

As I will describe in this chapter, most of the teachings on nonduality can be divided into two main categories: those that recognize an essence or ground of being that is the basis of the experience of oneness and those that claim that there is no ground, only the constantly changing flux of experience. Tibetan Buddhist scholars have neatly classified the first as “empty of other” (Tibetan: shentong) and the second as “empty of itself” (Tibetan: rangtong).1 These two points of view also appear in both ancient Greek and contemporary Western philosophy, but it is the Tibetan Buddhists who have produced a neat and explicit division between the two. Although the main divisions within Hindu philosophies concern the relationship of ultimate reality to our material world, there too we can find a distinction in the teachings about whether or not there is a knowable, fundamental ground.

I am not presenting these two views in order to be argumentative. Within Tibetan Buddhism this is a complex subject, at times involving political and doctrinal concerns and also giving rise to attempts to integrate the two views, saying that they are really the same or that they go to the same endpoint. But of greater interest to me and, I believe, of relevance to the contemporary spiritual seeker, is that these are really two distinct perspectives. They each offer a different understanding of our essential nature and how to uncover it. However, especially among New Age teachers in the West today, one or the other view is often taught simply as nonduality. This means that the spiritual seeker has no options and can only accept their teacher’s particular view. But given the choice, some people will naturally be drawn to go more deeply into the experience of a world that is empty except for the constantly changing flux of experience, and others will be drawn, as I have been, to explore more fully a unifying ground that pervades and encompasses this constant change.

The differences between traditional conceptions of nonduality are important for the spiritual student. They have significant bearing on the direction and goals of our spiritual realization, such as whether nonduality means that we still have emotions, whether we can embody nonduality, whether we can have relationships in nonduality, and even whether we continue to exist as distinct human beings.

It may be easy for us, with all the world’s traditions at our fingertips, to get lost in a labyrinth of spiritual teachings, riddled with conflicting signposts. I have included a description of these two categories of nonduality in this book partly to help guide the reader in the direction they wish to go and also to explain why the Realization Process is aligned with the shentong “empty of other” perspective. The purpose of the practices presented here is to uncover fundamental consciousness as the foundational ground of our being. This ground can be called the essence of our being because it is experienced as unchanging and unmoving. Unlike all of the changing content of our experience, it is not constructed or imagined—it is revealed as we refine and deepen our attunement to ourselves.

As the most subtle potential of our own being, nondual realization can be nurtured within a religious structure, cultivated without a traditional structure, or even discovered spontaneously. For most of us, even if we have had a spontaneous revelation of oneness, we need some sort of guidance, some sort of practice in order to experience nonduality as our stable, ongoing reality. Many of these practices can be found within religious traditions, especially within the structures of Buddhism and Hinduism. However, the understanding and method that I present in this book are not part of a religious tradition. They are based on my own realization and on the needs and discoveries of my students. However, many of my students have used the Realization Process practices to deepen their realization within their own religious tradition.

Like most contemporary Western nonduality teachers, I have spent many years in the study and practice of Asian spiritual traditions, mainly the Mahamudra and Dzogchen teachings of Tibetan Buddhism and Zen Buddhism and the Hindu teachings of Advaita Vedanta and Kashmir Shaivism. They have had a profound influence on me and, I believe, on much of the spiritually awakened elements of our society. What I found especially useful in these traditions was the confirmation and enrichment of the spiritual experience that I had privately treasured, in its nascent form, since my childhood. As a child, I glimpsed what appeared to be a numinous presence in the sky and trees in my backyard. As an adult, during the intense inward process of healing myself of a back injury that had stopped my career as a dancer in its tracks, I found this subtle consciousness again. I no longer experienced it as a presence separate from myself but as the foundation of my own being. But I felt that I recognized it from my childhood, as if it had always been there and was now more clearly revealed.

The experience of fundamental consciousness can seem very odd. It reveals one’s own being and one’s environment as both substantial and made of empty, luminous space at the same time. In the Buddhist and Hindu literature, I found descriptions of this odd experience that seemed to resemble my own, as well as guidance for deepening and stabilizing that realization. I felt assurance that an experience that seemed more subtle and more personal to me than my own breath has been known, described, and valued for thousands of years.

Having had some experience of fundamental consciousness emerge during my process of self-healing, I was more interested, from the start of my spiritual path, in accounts from those teachings that pointed to a fundamental ground of being than those that denied it. I searched the spiritual literature for any mention of this ground.

Although the rangtong “empty of itself” perspective is more widely known in the West than the shentong, we find references to a unified ground of consciousness in both the Advaita Vedanta and Kashmir Shaivism philosophies of Hinduism and in some teachings, or some interpretations of the teachings, within Zen Buddhism, Taoism, and the Mahamudra and Dzogchen philosophies of Tibetan Buddhism. As you will see in the quotes below, this ground is called by a variety of names, including Buddha-nature, Self, pure consciousness, primordial mind, and the clear light of wisdom mind. The literature of these spiritual traditions also contains many firsthand accounts by spiritual sages expressing delight in knowing themselves as this spiritual foundation. Even though these accounts come from different traditions with different and even conflicting philosophical and metaphysical systems, the experience they depict appears to be recognizably the same.

Here, for example, are two quotes from the fourteenth-century Tibetan Buddhist teacher Longchen Rabjam, also known as Longchenpa. He wrote, “Within the spacious expanse, the spacious expanse, the spacious expanse, I Longchen Rabjam, for whom the lucid expanse of being is infinite, experience everything as embraced within a blissful expanse, a single nondual expanse”2 and “Mind itself—that is, the nature of awakened mind—is pure like space, and so is without birth or death . . . it is unchanging, without transition, spontaneously present, and uncompounded.”3

And this is from Shankara, the ninth-century teacher of Advaita Vedanta: “I am the Supreme Brahman which is pure consciousness, always clearly manifest, unborn, one only, imperishable, unattached, and all-pervading and non-dual.”4

This final quote is from a root text of the Kashmir Shaivism philosophy: “The individual mind intently entering into the universal light of foundational consciousness sees the entire universe as saturated with that consciousness.”5

For me, the similarity of these descriptions of a pervasive, luminous consciousness at the base of one’s own mind and identity, affirms that it is an experience available to all of us. We can each reach this subtle foundational ground of our being; it is our actual nature, our innate potential as human beings.

Choices

The complexity within Asian religion was first illustrated to me by an event in my early spiritual training. It was 1981 and I was living at a Zen monastery in upstate New York. The residents, around thirty of us, were huddled around a clunky small-screened television. We were watching videos of a series of lectures that had recently been given by the Dalai Lama on his first tour of the United States.

He was mesmerizing. Although he was speaking in Tibetan, a language unfamiliar to all of us there, we were pulled as one into the concentrated thought and powerful love that he conveyed in his voice and presence. Yet I found what he was saying, via his translator, to be less than compelling. It had a great deal to do with tables and how they were comprised of different parts that could themselves be divided into different parts, and it concluded finally that there was really no such thing as a table, beyond the meaning attributed to this assemblage of parts by human beings.

There was no essence of tableness within the table. I later heard this articulated as the “nonfindability of inherent reality in objects and persons from their own side.” This was not really breaking news to my postmodern sensibility. I had grown up knowing that all of our experience is filtered through our subjective templates and interpretations. That, as Gertrude Stein put it, “There is no there, there.” I also understood that as a method of spiritual practice, this was meant to help us achieve a sense of nongrasping and lead to a more direct, vivid experience of life, relatively unobscured by mental elaboration.

However, I felt instinctively that this deconstruction of the objective world had little bearing for my own spiritual path. It did not shed light for me on the experience of numinous presence that I had felt in the sky as a very young child or that I later felt in my body when I was a young dancer or that I was now beginning to experience pervading not only my body but the world around me.

After months of intensive meditation practice at the monastery, I was experiencing an intriguing sense of weightlessness, of transparency that seemed to coexist with the substance of the world. If we were going to talk about tables, I wanted to know why the table seemed to be made of empty luminous space while still being a table. It was my intimation of and my attraction to the mysterious transparency of the world that had brought me to live at a Zen monastery.

As the Dalai Lama ended his talk, I felt let down. I even thought, “Well, so much for Buddhism.” Then he said, “This that I have just explained to you is a very profound Buddhist philosophy. If it interests you, you should dedicate the remainder of your life to trying to understand it. But if it doesn’t interest you,” and here he looked straight at us with a mischievous smile, “Buddhism has many other philosophies that might interest you more.”

After his long, passionate discourse on what I would later learn was the perspective of his own Gelugpa sect, I found his ending on this democratic note to be moving as well as instructive. It pointed out to me that people are instinctively drawn to particular philosophies, that we are each more compatible with some spiritual approaches than others. We need to follow our own lights to get to the path that feels right, and to do that, we need to understand the differences between the various paths and philosophies. This is especially true today when every possible point of view is available, and when spiritual teachings are often promoted with persuasive commercial skill.

Nonduality Perspectives

Nonduality has become a popular teaching in the contemporary spiritual field. Although there are varying, conflicting perspectives and practices now offered as nonduality, these teachings also have important elements in common. They all view human beings as intrinsically endowed with the means to understand or even to realize the primary nature of reality. For most nondualists, ultimate reality is accessible through a deepening and refining of our own experience. I once heard an Indian teacher say, “First you are in the light, then the light is in you, then you and the light are the same.” Nondual realization is this third stage of understanding.

The difference between the two main categories of nondual teachings is in what they consider to be ultimate reality. This distinction affects the types of practices employed to realize nonduality and the beliefs and values that the spiritual aspirant will cultivate in order to succeed on that path.

In the rangtong “empty-of-itself” view, the approach to realization is usually cognitive or analytical, like the Dalai Lama’s mental exercise of taking apart the table. It is the cultivation of an understanding of the impermanent, constructed nature of everything we experience. It emphasizes the principle of codependent origination—that everything we experience arises from previous causes. It also seeks to eliminate mental elaboration, such as the attribution of names and associations to objects, by understanding the arbitrary, subjective nature of this mental elaboration. Because of the impermanent, cause-dependent, compounded and subjectively interpreted nature of objects and people, it considers them to be illusory, as having no findable, true existence.

Cultivating this perspective can help us let go, to some extent, of our defensive grip on ourselves. If we do not really exist, what is there to protect? With this understanding, we can allow the river of life to flow and change. Stripped of mental elaboration, we can experience a bright, clear display of phenomena, an unclouded alertness to the present moment. One of the main goals of this practice is to overcome the suffering that comes from attachment, from trying to grasp on to what is essentially impermanent.

Here is a quote from the early Buddhist Bahiya Sutta that states this clearly:

This time the Buddha relented and said, “Well then Bahiya, you should train yourself like this: whenever you see a form, simply see; whenever you hear a sound, simply hear; whenever you smell an aroma, simply smell; whenever you taste a flavor, simply taste; whenever you feel a sensation, simply feel; whenever a thought arises, let it be just a thought. Then ‘you’ will not exist; whenever you do not exist, you will not be found in this world, another world, or in between. That is the end of suffering.”6

A common practice in Advaita Vedanta is a mental exercise called “not this, not this” or neti neti, in which the practitioner carefully recognizes, “I am not my sensations, not my emotions, not my thoughts.” For some teachers and their students, this practice leads to where the Buddhist cognitive practices lead, with nothing left, nothing real.

However, this same Advaita Vedantic practice is sometimes taught as leading to an understanding that there is a dimension that we really are, after eliminating our identity with our changing thoughts, feelings, and sensations. This is a ground of pure (unmodified) consciousness or Self that is not identified with the mentally constructed ideas of oneself or with the flux of emotions, sensations, and thoughts. It leads to the shentong “empty-of-other” view of an unmodified, unconstructed ground of identity. The shentong teachings, however, usually require meditation in order to reveal the actual experience, the actual realization, of this fundamental ground. We cannot reach this ground through our intellect alone. We need to open to it throughout our whole body and being.

One of my favorite descriptions of the shentong view comes from the contemporary Tibetan teacher Khenpo Tsultrim Gyamtso Rinpoche. He claims that although all of the content of our experience is conceptually constructed and can therefore be viewed as not truly existent, the essence of life is unconstructed and therefore does truly exist. He writes, “It is completely free from any conceptualizing process and knows in a way that is completely foreign to the conceptual mind. It is completely unimaginable in fact. That is why it can be said to truly exist.”

He also says, “The essence of the non-conceptual Wisdom mind cannot be grasped by the conceptual mind and so, from the point of view of the conceptual mind, it is without essence; from its own point of view it is absolute reality.”7

Both the rangtong and shentong paths teach that we are not who we think we are and that the world is not what we think it is. But they differ significantly in their view of what we actually are and what the world actually is.

There have been attempts over the centuries to reconcile the two views, to claim that they are really both getting to the same thing. But, in general, each of the two schools of thought just thinks the other is wrong. They each like to claim that the other is a preparation for getting to their own view. The rangtong adherents think that the teaching of Buddha-nature, or a ground consciousness, is just reassurance for people who are not yet ready to face that there is nothing there. And the shentong adherents feel that the no-ground teaching is for students who are still so identified with their constructed identity that they need to be told it is all an illusion, that there is really nothing there to grasp on to, before they can be open enough to realize the subtle ground of their being.

That said, both views are helpful in pointing out each other’s potential pitfalls. There is a danger, in the shentong view, that students will attempt to grasp on to, or to imagine, the pervasive space of fundamental consciousness, instead of opening to it. It can become an object of our awareness, like any other object, rather than realized as our own bare subjectivity. And there is a danger for adherents of the rangtong view that they will remain fixed in an intellectual stance that limits the perceptual immediacy that they seek. They also may never arrive at the actual experience of oneness that arises when we uncover the ground of our being.

In the West, the rangtong teaching of no ground is so much more prevalent than the shentong view that I have heard even many Buddhist teachers refer to it as the only view, as “what Buddhism says.” In the psychotherapy field, the dominant understanding of the human psyche has been that it is made of mental constructs and nothing else. We form templates, or schema, based on our earliest experiences, which continue to shape our experience of ourselves and our world for the rest of our lives. With just a few exceptions, contemporary psychotherapists have either denied or ignored the possibility of a unified ground of being beyond these constructs. This common view among psychotherapists meant that as Buddhism became popular in the West, many therapists readily embraced and integrated into their work the rangtong denial of a foundational, unified ground of being.

The popularity of mindfulness forms of meditation and their incorporation into Western psychotherapy modalities, even though they are focused on bodily experience, has in general supported Western psychotherapy’s rejection of an essence or ground of being. Mindfulness techniques cultivate the ability to observe even tiny shifts in one’s experience. However, the focus of these practices is specifically on the content of experience. With few exceptions, they do not provide instructions for accessing a unified ground of consciousness.

As an example of how fully the Buddhist “empty of itself” philosophy has been accepted in Western psychology, here is a quote from Peter Levine, one of the most influential contemporary psychotherapists:

Paradoxically, the only way that we can know ourselves is in learning to be mindfully aware of the moment-to-moment goings-on of our body and mind as they exist through various situations occurring in time. We have no experience of anything that is permanent or independent of this. Thus there is no ego or self, just a counterfeit construction. While counterintuitive to most of us, this is common “knowledge” to highly experienced meditators.8

However, this is not the knowledge or experience of all highly experienced meditators. Highly experienced meditators have been debating exactly this point for many centuries.

As a teacher of fundamental consciousness, I think that the rangtong view may be better known than the shentong because it is simply easier for many people to do the conceptual deconstructive work of disassembling a table into parts than the fine attunement work of actually experiencing the table as made of the same consciousness as their own being. To know ourselves and our environment as pervaded by fundamental consciousness requires us to thoroughly transform ourselves. It is not only a cognitive procedure but a process of deep inward contact, of subtle, precise attunement to the innermost core of our being. In general, as a culture, we are far more familiar with our cognitive processes than with deepening and refining our contact with ourselves. And in my work as a psychotherapist, I have seen that the suppression of thoughts and feelings, even of the sense of our own existence, is how many of us protected ourselves when we were vulnerable children and that we may utilize this same familiar ability in an attempt to follow the advice, quoted above, that was given to Bahiya.

It is undoubtedly true that life is constantly changing, that everything that occurs does so as a result of something occurring before it and that all things exist in an interrelated web of objects and meanings.

It is important and awe-inspiring to understand that we are part of this web of existence, that even our smallest action can have far-reaching repercussions. But for me, this intellectual recognition of our place in the universe is not as liberating as the actual experience of oneness that occurs when we open to the undivided ground of consciousness pervading everywhere. As I will describe later in this book, as fundamental consciousness we can discern even more clearly the changing flux of experience. But the foundation of our being, in my experience, is not just emptiness. It is experienced as a blend of emptiness and presence and some element that defies language and feels like existence itself.

Although my work as a nonduality teacher is aligned with the shentong view, I do not speak of fundamental consciousness as a metaphysical reality. I cannot claim to know what it is. Buddhists often speak of it as the nature of the mind, while many Hindu philosophers have asserted that it is the nature of the universe. Still others claim that we have imagined the universe into being and that therefore the base of the mind and the universe are the same.

In the Realization Process, I teach that fundamental consciousness is an experience, but an experience like no other. We uncover it rather than create it. The Buddhists say that it is “self-knowing.” It is not something that we are conscious of as an object; rather it occurs when consciousness becomes conscious of itself. The twentieth-century philosopher Nishitani called it our “primordial subjectivity.”9

But these are just words until you experience it yourself. That is why I almost never speak or write about fundamental consciousness without including practices for the reader to reach this inner depth within themselves, as I do in this book.

Blackstone, Judith, Ph.D. The Fullness of the Ground (Chapter One). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.

A healthy pelvis is so important to moving with fluidity and grace. Getting to know our pelvic floor muscles experientially allows us to become more conscious and in contact everywhere in our body – thus growing towards wholeness.

Feeling diffuse, core, open heart; Ardith- grounded – challenging emotions; Kirsten – resourcing; John – relationships – feedbacks (16 min)

Meditating – center of the earth, depth of contact with yourself and others, cohering into the midline, crossing the midline (15 min)

Group practice – how sensing other people in the field affects us – confusion, frustrated, boomerang, annoyance, helplessness, disorientation, feeling ‘safe’ by ‘leaving’ (19 min)

Extras

Passcode: authenticity

Passcode: meditation

Passcode: embodiment

Whole: conscious and in contact with yourself, everywhere in your body

(quotes from some of Judith’s books, quotes edited slightly and reordered by rh June 2023)
for your eyes/ears only please

  • Wholeness is a lived experience of ourselves as an undivided consciousness, a subtle, unified ground of consciousness, pervading our whole body and our environment, at the same time.
  • Living within our body, conscious and in contact with ourselves everywhere in our body, an internal coherence dissolves the conceptually-based boundary between self and other, along with the defensive, strategizing self.
    • We experience the qualities of fundamental consciousness pervading our whole body and our environment – a richly-textured blend of the qualities of awareness, emotion, and physical sensation.
    • We also experience a more delineated spectrum of qualities within our body: gender (however that feels for each of us) and sexuality within the sexual organs and pelvis, power between the pelvis and chest, love within the chest, voice within our throat, and intelligence within our head.
      • Integration of these innate qualities of our body form the experiential basis of our wholeness – the internal cohesion of our individual being.
        • This enriches every aspect of our functioning, bringing timbre to our voce, depth to our touch, intensity to our sexual pleasure, and breadth to our intelligence.
      • When we embody our wholeness, our thoughts, emotions, sensations, and perceptions occur as a unity.
        • Our senses function as a unity.
        • Our actions spring from a single source of understanding, emotion, and physical sensation.
        • Even the smallest movement of our body, as we turn our head or gesture with our hands, carries the full breadth of our human capacities.
      • Through cultivating capacity to experience resonance and attune to ourselves and others in this luminous, unbounded fundamental consciousness, we grow into wholeness.
        • And we discover that our individual wholeness is, at the same time, the unity of self and other.
          • There is no longer any divisive schism between subject and object.
          • There is not a merging of self and other.
          • The oneness of “I” and “other” does not negate the integrity of the individual wholeness of each person.
        • Wholeness is our actual shape, hidden within our constricted shape, oneness is our actual relationship with our world and happiness arises spontaneously as an inherent aspect of our being.
          • Within our own body, we find the unified, responsive, spontaneous being that we have always known somewhere in the background of all our experience.
          • The possessing of the newly released space within your body enables the release to be a lasting change in the way you inhabit your body.
            • As we release the constrictions from our senses, the world around us becomes more vivid, more tangible, more transparent.
            • We become more capable of love and understanding and self-expression, strength, and pleasure.
          • It follows that as we heal the effects of relational trauma, we not only become increasingly whole within our individual selves, we also become more capable of meaningful, authentic relationships with others.
        • When we inhabit our body, we experience ourselves as an undivided consciousness, a subtle unified ground of consciousness, pervading our whole body and our environment, at the same time.
          • As we dissolve our protective shell and realize our oneness with other life, we realize ourselves.
          • There is no schism between thought, feeling, and sensation.
          • We feel a continuity, a wholeness, of inner and outer experience, without any shifting of focus.
          • There is not a collapsing of our internal experience in favor of the environment.
        • When we realize fundamental consciousness, we are capable of unguarded receptivity and fluid responsiveness to our environment.
          • We experience life in a spontaneous and vivid way.
          • This landing in truth, this tangible feeling of reality, when we have been living in limitation and disguise, is one of the most fulfilling experiences available to human beings.
          • Our true, or essential sense of self, matures with the realization of fundamental consciousness.

Wholeness Mirror Experiments (from me)

(for your eyes/ears only please)

Wholeness: the lived experience of being conscious and in contact everywhere

Sit in front of a mirror. Meditate with your eyes open.
Inhabit yourself, attune to the quality of wholeness in your body. 

If you want, start with attuning to the quality of wholeness in your feet, ankles, lower legs, knees, thights …etc, to make sure you awaken your whole body.

  1. Can you experience yourself as basically whole, and undamaged?
    If not, where do you have difficulty making contact – sensing yourself?If you want, focus on parts of your body where you have difficulty sensing yourself.
    Options:
    a) Place a meditation bowl on that part of your boody, and experience the vibrations.
    b) Use a very soft brush on your skin, and experience the sensations.
    c) Use a mantra of your choice, and silently vibrate it on parts of your body you want to wake up.
    d) Experiment with touch – touch of your hands or legs or breath or attention. See what happens.
  2. Can you experience a deep, subtle but unmistakeable sense of “I am”?
    If you want, silently repeat this mantra “I am” in your feet, ankles, lower legs, knees, thights, etc. to see if your whole body can awaken to the subtle vibrations of “I am”? Does that make a difference?
  3. Which parts of your body are more quality-rich than others? Which are less quality-rich than others?
    If you want, put both hands around any part of your torso, neck, or head.
    Say to yourself: “Experience yourself between my hands.”
    See if touch helps these qualities feel alive, pleasurable, and ‘you.’
    Or experiment with any of the suggestions above – or options of your own choosing.
  • Optimize your office or studio set up so that:
    • your presence fills the screen
    • your colors, lighting, and background create an ambience of safety, warmth, friendliness, and connectedness as well as professionalism.

Andi, Marijana, Margaret

Laura, Ruth, John, Ardith

Katherine, Susan, Diana

Louise, Kirsten, Emma

Guidelines for Meeting with Spiritual Friends Outside of Class:

Important learning happens when spiritual friends seek open-heartedly to learn from each other. Speaking directly with your partner(s) weekly allows each of you to focus on what really matters to each of you. Suggestions as to how your time together might be valuable to each of you:

  • Decide on dates/times to meet – exchange contact info – and talk about what makes a study group session particularly valuable to each person.
  • Take time ahead of each session individually to preview the preparation for the upcoming week – so when you meet together, you can discern where the Venn Diagram of your shared interests intersect.
  • Select someone to be the facilitator for each study group session. (Zoom link, reminders, agenda, etc.)
  • Begin each session with a short breathing practice or core-to-core attunement or any other meditation assigned for the past or upcoming week – so that each person can settle – and so each of you can relate being-to-being.

Samples as to how you might organize your study group session:

  • (10 min) Meditating: Core Breath
  • (5 min) Getting started: Discern the Venn diagram of your shared interests as a focus for the study group session today?
  • (15 min) Connecting: Share your responses to one or more of the journal prompts
  • (30-45 min) Preparing for the next cohort meeting
    • Talk about the assigned reading – for example, focus on your experiential understanding of key passages that interest you most – or your questions as to what Judith means by key terms – or your experiences of certain key phrases
    • Talk about one of your journal responses to the prompts that interests you most
    • Get to the heart of the issue for next session, for example:
      • Describe your ideal student. Explain why.
      • Describe skillful ways to recognize and respond to your own and your students’ basic human needs to feel safe, trusted, connected, and respected
  • (10 min) Reflecting together on your study group session as to what you learned, what challenged you, what worked or didn’t work, what support or help do you want or need, suggestions for your next study group session
  • (5 min) Closing
When one has lived a long time alone, one wants to live again among men and women, to return to that place where one’s ties with the human broke, where the disquiet of death and now also of history glimmers its firelight on faces, where the gaze of the new baby looks past the gaze of the great granny, and where lovers speak, on lips blowsy from kissing, that language the same in each mouth, and like birds at daybreak blether the song that is both earth’s and heaven’s, until the sun has risen, and they stand in the light of being made one: kingdom come, when one has lived a long time alone.
Section 11
Galway Kinnell

“The family the soul wants is a felt network of relationship, an evocation of a certain kind of interconnection that grounds, roots, and nestles.” – Thomas Moore

“It is important to be carefully attuned to our desires, for they help form our individual path toward wholeness. Desire arises out of tension. We project our desire onto material possessions, etc., but we can also see through these superficial attractions to our more essential desire to be free from the tension of our incompleteness. Desire can be understood as the force of our will toward equilibrium and wholeness.

“As the unconscious desires of our bound childhood mentality become resolved, our circumstances begin to match our conscious desires. We become less fragmented, and our desire also becomes less fragmented. We begin to experience that we desire wholeness, that we crave connection with our self and others, that we want to penetrate through the numb parts of ourselves to the life within them. At this point, we find ourselves with opportunities to work directly on our spiritual awakening.

“The desire/response aspect of our relationship with the universe is often dismissed as the worst sort of new-age babble. It can easily be labeled as ‘magical thinking,’ one of psychology’s worse insults, because it does point to a magical aspect of nature. But this is magic that goes on all the time in our lives, and may simply be a basic principle of the nature of the universe. Hindu metaphysics call the universe a “‘wish-fullfilling gem.’”

Judith Blackstone
The Enlightenment Process, page 94

Whole: conscious and in contact with yourself, everywhere in your body

(quotes from some of Judith’s books, quotes edited slightly and reordered by rh June 2023)
for your eyes/ears only please

  • Wholeness is a lived experience of ourselves as an undivided consciousness, a subtle, unified ground of consciousness, pervading our whole body and our environment, at the same time.
  • Living within our body, conscious and in contact with ourselves everywhere in our body, an internal coherence dissolves the conceptually-based boundary between self and other, along with the defensive, strategizing self.
    • We experience the qualities of fundamental consciousness pervading our whole body and our environment – a richly-textured blend of the qualities of awareness, emotion, and physical sensation.
    • We also experience a more delineated spectrum of qualities within our body: gender (however that feels for each of us) and sexuality within the sexual organs and pelvis, power between the pelvis and chest, love within the chest, voice within our throat, and intelligence within our head.
      • Integration of these innate qualities of our body form the experiential basis of our wholeness – the internal cohesion of our individual being.
        • This enriches every aspect of our functioning, bringing timbre to our voce, depth to our touch, intensity to our sexual pleasure, and breadth to our intelligence.
      • When we embody our wholeness, our thoughts, emotions, sensations, and perceptions occur as a unity.
        • Our senses function as a unity.
        • Our actions spring from a single source of understanding, emotion, and physical sensation.
        • Even the smallest movement of our body, as we turn our head or gesture with our hands, carries the full breadth of our human capacities.
      • Through cultivating capacity to experience resonance and attune to ourselves and others in this luminous, unbounded fundamental consciousness, we grow into wholeness.
        • And we discover that our individual wholeness is, at the same time, the unity of self and other.
          • There is no longer any divisive schism between subject and object.
          • There is not a merging of self and other.
          • The oneness of “I” and “other” does not negate the integrity of the individual wholeness of each person.
        • Wholeness is our actual shape, hidden within our constricted shape, oneness is our actual relationship with our world and happiness arises spontaneously as an inherent aspect of our being.
          • Within our own body, we find the unified, responsive, spontaneous being that we have always known somewhere in the background of all our experience.
          • The possessing of the newly released space within your body enables the release to be a lasting change in the way you inhabit your body.
            • As we release the constrictions from our senses, the world around us becomes more vivid, more tangible, more transparent.
            • We become more capable of love and understanding and self-expression, strength, and pleasure.
          • It follows that as we heal the effects of relational trauma, we not only become increasingly whole within our individual selves, we also become more capable of meaningful, authentic relationships with others.
        • When we inhabit our body, we experience ourselves as an undivided consciousness, a subtle unified ground of consciousness, pervading our whole body and our environment, at the same time.
          • As we dissolve our protective shell and realize our oneness with other life, we realize ourselves.
          • There is no schism between thought, feeling, and sensation.
          • We feel a continuity, a wholeness, of inner and outer experience, without any shifting of focus.
          • There is not a collapsing of our internal experience in favor of the environment.
        • When we realize fundamental consciousness, we are capable of unguarded receptivity and fluid responsiveness to our environment.
          • We experience life in a spontaneous and vivid way.
          • This landing in truth, this tangible feeling of reality, when we have been living in limitation and disguise, is one of the most fulfilling experiences available to human beings.
          • Our true, or essential sense of self, matures with the realization of fundamental consciousness.

Wholeness Mirror Experiments (from me)

(for your eyes/ears only please)

Wholeness: the lived experience of being conscious and in contact everywhere

  • Sit in front of a mirror. Meditate with your eyes open.
  • Inhabit yourself, attune to the quality of wholeness in your body.
  • Attune to the quality of wholeness in your feet, ankles, lower legs, knees, thighs …etc., to make sure you awaken your whole body.

1. Can you experience yourself as basically whole, and undamaged?
If not, where do you have difficulty making contact – sensing yourself? If you want, focus on parts of your body where you have difficulty sensing yourself.

Options:

  •  Place a meditation bowl on that part of your body, and experience the vibrations.
  • Use a very soft brush on your skin, and experience the sensations.
  • Use a mantra of your choice, and silently vibrate it on parts of your body you want to wake up.
  • Experiment with touch – touch of your hands or legs or breath or attention. See what happens.

2. Can you experience a deep, subtle but unmistakable sense of “I am”?

  • Silently repeat this mantra “I am” in your feet, ankles, lower legs, knees, thighs, etc. to see if your whole body can awaken to the subtle vibrations of “I am”
  • Does that make a difference?

3. Which parts of your body are more quality-rich than others? Which parts are less quality-rich than others?

Suggestions:

  • Put both hands around any part of your torso, neck, or head.
  • Say to yourself: “Experience yourself between my hands.”
  • See if touch helps these qualities feel alive, pleasurable, and ‘you.’

Or experiment with any of the suggestions above – or options of your own choosing.

Advice for your offering:

Before the series:

  • Get your website made / updated to include this offering
    • You will also need to figure out what’s next – so that interested people can follow up with you
  • Get an online scheduler such as www.calendly.com so people can schedule private sessions with you.
    • You need to figure out your rates to see people individually; when I first started teaching, Judith suggested charging what people would pay for a good massage;
    • Judith suggests having each session be 50 minutes long
    • You need to start collecting emails so you have people to send offerings to …
  • Get your technology, setting, camera, sound, etc. optimized
    • Your settings can reflect your professionalism – they should have relevance
  • Start developing a list of emails for people that you can send promos to
  • Make videos
  • promo video to be sent out 6-8 weeks ahead of time
  • You may want Talia’s help with editing your audio or video recordings … or perhaps you have a friend who can edit them; I use the program Descript – as it’s the easiest editing tool – and it works with a Mac –
    • Or practice and do your recording again and again so it doesn’t require much editing

During the series:

  • Know how to share screen for music, youtube videos, our videos
  • Know how to set up breakout rooms – and how to rotate them so that each of us get to teach the same lesson to three different small groups
  • Send out emails to people each week – it’s great to have them be from you, so you’re developing a personal relationship with the people …
  • Be prepared to meet with interested people for a session

Week 1 Lesson Plan

  • Welcome – introduce yourself and the Realization Process, give an overview of course, and an overvew of day
  • Introductions as a “garland of connection” – name, geographic location, something interesting about yourself that you might share when meeting a new friend in a coffee shop, and your intentions in taking this course
  • Practices:
    • Differentiating between being aware of … and inhabiting the body
      • Quote from Judith: “To inhabit our body means to enter into and live within the whole internal space of our body. When we inhabit our body, we are present within our body. We feel that we are the internal space of our body.”
      • Q/A – Sharing of experiences
    • Feel that you’re between my hands – ankles, wrists – thighs – shoulders – feet
    • finding core energy points – center of palms – experience the resonance, the stillness of the balanced mind
    • calm breath exercise
    • Attunement to Fundamental Consciousness
      • you can shorten exercise 1 by leaving out the upward-rising curremnt, leaving out the qualities (gender/sexuality, power, love, voice, understanding_ Leave out finding the space outside the body.
      • Keep in ‘inhabiting the body, attuning to the quality of self, finding and balancing the points in the knees, hip sockets, shoulder sockets, palms’ and keep in ‘the breath moving through the balanced mind without perturbing the stillness’ Attuning to the quality of self in your whole body. Experiencing wholeness.
        • Visual – Picasso – 4 line nude – wholeness is wholeness even when it’s accessible in only part of our body. It’s still wholeness. There’s a felt-sense of existence, of being alive that comes in with that depth of contact.
        • Q/A – Sharing of experiences
        • Focus: the upward-rising current can be practiced separately
          • tips on finding the point at the bottom of the torso
          • tips on finding the crown chakra
          • exploration of the felt-sense of the upward rising current
    • Balancing two parallel points – experiencing the stillness of the balanced mind
  • Closing: Let a word or a phrase come to you. And we will close with this also with the invitation for you to practice 20 to 30 minutes daily and focusing on inhabiting the body, making deep contact. So what are you feeling right now in your body? What’s it like? – in a word or a phrase?

Week 2 Lesson Plan

  • Welcome. Thank you for being here. Today I’ll introduce a very short meditation, and then I’ll guide us in a longer meditation. You’ll meet for about 20 minutes in breakout rooms to explore the qualities that we uncover as human beings. When we are cleared of the constrictions and conditioning, there seem to be inherent qualities that we can experience as human beings. There will be a chance for questions and personal guidance.
  • We’re going begin with a garland of connections. Let a joy or a sorrow from this past week, come to you, a joy or a sorrow. Say your name, your geographic location and a joy or a sorrow. Unmute yourselves, as you are touched by what somewhat says. A “garland of connection.”
  • Focus:
    • Talk / Meditation: Distinction between matter, energy, and fundamental consciousness
      • Q/A
    • Talk / Meditation: Core Breath
      • Q/A – helping individuals
    • Talk: Fundamental consciousness pervades and unifies the qualities of being human
      • Introduction and exploration of the qualities of being human – gender/sexuality, power, love, voice, understanding
      • Q/A – helping individuals
    • Meditation: Attuning to Fundamental Consciousness

Week 3 June 15, 2022

Week 4 June 22, 2022

Week 5

I invite you to introduce yourself as a “garland of connections.” That means that the first person speaks, and then someone who is touched or moved by what they say speaks next. They speak directly to the first speaker, saying their name, so that they feel met. So they feel heard. So they feel seen,  acknowledged. Tell the first person how you were touched by what they said.

Then you share whatever you want to share. The next person to share is someone who was touched by what you shared. They speak to you, saying your name, telling you how they were touched by what they shared. Then they speak.

After the last person speaks, the first person connects the “garland” and reflects back to the last person how they are touched by what the last person shares.

Realization Process Essentials
Online via Zoom
$175

Everyone is welcome!
Come home to your true self!

Join this unique opportunity to focus on two foundational Realization Process exercises: Attunement to Fundamental Consciousness and Core Breath. During this five-week series, you’ll receive gentle, precise guidance in:

  • Breathing to become calm and present
  • Inhabiting the internal space of your whole body
  • Opening the flow of energy centers in your body
  • Experiencing an unbound spaciousness and stillness
  • Uncovering a quality-rich authentic experience of yourself
  • Realizing oneness with others, without losing contact with yourself

This small-group series includes 7.5 hours of classes with guidance, personal feedback, and individualized attention.

Notes:

  • Please commit to showing up, speaking your truth, listening with curiosity, and honoring confidentiality (so that each of us can be open, let go of fear of judgment, and allow our self to be seen and heard in our humanness.) After all, what we say in one moment as “truth” might be completely different in the next.
  • Apply only if you can commit to participating “live” in at least four of the five sessions..

Lifestyle suggestions:

  • Create a supportive, quiet environment
  • Design a life schedule conducive to your well-being
  • Make a list of resources that honor the importance of being kind to yourself and others.
  • Listen to the wisdom of your body with tenderness and curiosity.

Welcome. I’m Roma Hammel. Thank you for being here. I’m very pleased to be here. I’ve been teaching the Realization Process since 2011. I first met Judith Blackstone at Esalen, in the Big Sur coast, in 2007. I knew almost immediately that there was something incredibly different about this kind of body-centered nondual meditation. I’m happy to have this chance to share it with you. 

Today I’ll talk a little about the Realization Process – and also about nonduality. You’ll have a chance to introduce yourselves. We’ll meditate. You’ll practice in breakout rooms. There will be open space – an opportunity for you to ask questions and share your experiences.

Right now I invite you to take a moment and close your eyes. Make deep contact with yourself. Say your name silently inside. Just feel, feel that. Silently say your location, and picture where you are geographically. Then bring to mind something personal about you that you might talk about if you were in a coffee shop, meeting new friends for the first time. Lastly, let it come to you – what are your wishes, your intentions for being in this course.

So your name, your geographic location, something interesting that you might share with someone in a coffee shop so they get to know you, and your wishes for our time together.

Letting your eyes slowly open, I invite you to introduce yourself as a “garland of connections.” That means that the first person speaks, and then someone who is touched or moved by what they say speaks next. They speak direction to the first speaker, saying their name, he first person, what it is that they said so that they feel met. So they feel heard. So they feel seen,  acknowledged, and telling the first person how you were touched by what they said. Then you share whatever you want to share. The next person to share is someone who was touched by what you shared. They speak to you, saying your name, telling you how they were touched by what they shared. Then they speak.

After the last person speaks, the first person connects the “garland” and reflects back to the last person how they are touched by what the last person shares.